The Listening Leader

Shazamme System User • March 17, 2020

Why listening is a leaders’ secret superpower. We all respect bosses that can command an audience, lead with a strategy and a plan, be assertive and decisive, right?What if that leader could put their ego to one side and listen more than talk, give others the stage and not always offer up solutions, encourage ideas and opinions from their people; would that show weakness or an inspirational strength? “Good leaders ask great questions that inspire others to think more, learn more, do more and become more.” John Maxwell From my experience of managing leaders at various stages in their career; from newly promoted team leaders to senior leadership teams, it is easy to become fixated on the view that they need to be the one with the answers, devise the plan, make the decisions, show no weakness. 

It’s easy to get into mental ruts; we often think the same thoughts day after day, leaders can spend so much time trying to convince others of their views, that they overlook the option of asking their people for their valuable and often insightful opinion, instead choosing to do what they have always done.


Gallup’s 2019 study on ‘The Future of Work’ finds that in today’s world, in order to succeed, great leaders need to be able to master two things:


1) Bring multiple teams together 

2) Make great decisions. 


Both require an ability to connect people and see situations from all angles.  Collaboration requires trust and strong two-way communication. 

“Two of the fastest ways to connect with other people are to ask questions and ask for help” John. Maxwell.

Ultimately, being listened to feels good.  It shows people that you are more interested in them then yourself. Listening without distraction helps your people thrive.  Surely that should be the goal for both your people and your organisation.

Listening with intention:

  • Increases trust and creates psychological safety allowing others to feel they have a voice.
  • Creates a willingness in your people to reflect in a non-defensive way. To share both their strengths and weaknesses.
  • Puts people in a safe state where they can open up and share thoughts and ideas.
  • Enhances your relationship with that person quickly and deeply.
  • Allows you to learn far more about your people and you will be able to engage them to a greater level.

So why do so few leaders truly ace at it?

Listening to someone with intention is a skill, like a muscle that we need to develop and grow.

It’s hard work; it takes time to practice and master.

Distractions are everywhere, all the time, making time for quality conversations is tough.

It’s quicker to communicate at speed and get the job done, everyone is time short, right?

But what would happen if you did master it?

Your people would thrive, creativity in problem solving would be higher; co-created plans generate more engagement, a culture of psychological safety would form, others would follow your lead and listen intently to their peers and your customers.

Learning to listen and putting the ego to one side are core themes running through Engage. Enable. Empower your people to work happy programme.  Investing in your leaders and managers to help them enable their people to thrive sees returns across all areas of your business, from engagement to retention, productivity and customer satisfaction.

Online, one to one or in groups, bespoke to the needs of your organisation, if you want to know more, DM me and I’d love to discuss how I can help you help your people thrive.

By Shazamme System User February 28, 2023
“We have a great culture.” We have all heard it. We have all said it. But what does that mean? Ping-Pong tables, free meals, and beer on tap? No. Yoga, CrossFit classes, and massage chairs? I so need that, but no. The promise of being part of a hip, equity-incentivized, fast growing team? Closer, but still no. Culture is often referred to as “the way things are done around here.” But to be useful, we need to get more specific than that. I’ve been working in HR for over twenty years, and the best companies I’ve worked with have recognized that there are three elements to a culture: behaviors, systems, and practices, all guided by an overarching set of values. A great culture is what you get when all three of these are aligned, and line up with the organization’s espoused values. When gaps start to appear, that’s when you start to see problems — and see great employees leave. These gaps can take many forms. 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